** Warning: Long Post **
I just see a person
On Saturday my husband is off to a robotics competition. He’s a coach/mentor for a local high school. BIL #1 and BIL #2 are going to see their mom since it is her birthday. They offered to bring Lana because it would be nice for her to see her grandmother and it would free me up, but I told them she had dance classes and we had other plans. Honestly, I am less enthused about Lana going to MIL’s birthday because I am still bitter about that one spontaneous visit where she compared her with her cousins. But that was only part of it.
From that same weekend on a Saturday morning, I was ready to go to the gym and then I hear the phone ring. I thought it was my phone and I did not think anything of it. I thought, “I’ll pick it up later.” Then I see MIL storm out of Lana’s room running around the living area to look for her phone thinking it was hers and I also heard a thud and Lana crying afterwards. I checked up on Lana as my MIL was frantically looking for her phone. Then she had the nerve to ask me to help look for her phone because she really needed it. I thought to myself “who calls at 7AM on a Saturday? Is this phone more important than calming a one-year old down after you dropped her? Is it more important than the fact that her diaper is incredibly full on top of that?” I took my time calming my kid down and changed her to a fresh, dry diaper. I looked for MIL’s phone after calming her down. That moment set the tone for an icy weekend as Lana did not easily forgive her grandmother. Lana did not want to be picked by her grandmother nor wanted to accept her affection. It was hard to watch as it did hurt MIL’s feelings. But of course, my MIL complained there is something wrong with my daughter *roll eyes*. Thinking about that weekend still makes me bitter, it’s as fresh as I remembered it. I still think she’s a narcisist.
I already declared that I did not want Lana to go to MIL’s birthday because why should she be around someone who makes her feel like garbage. I get that my BILs (and sometimes my husband) see their mom as the matriarch, the queen, someone we need to serve. They see her as Lana’s grandmother, someone Lana has to spend time with. In contrast, I just see her as a person. I judge by actions regardless of who you are.
Love Connection: Interview Edition
My interviews went well overall. For employer #1, I got invited to a second interview next week. This one went a lot better than I expected and I liked what they were offering. More on that in a bit.
Employer #2 was just okay. Employer #2 is the one closest to my house. I thought I was already committed to this employer because of the distance but there were a couple of things that turned me off. During the interview, they asked me about why I am going for a coordinator position if I have Master’s Degree and many years of experience when I should be going for a management or director position. I was a little annoyed, but I told them that I had opportunities for higher positions at other health facilities but I’ve been declining them because they were too far. I thought it would be better to go for a lateral position that was a little closer and grow from there. Based on the interview and what they disclosed, it was not what I expected. There seemed to be a discrepancy in the salary. Last week I was told one number and during the interview, the pay was different and I’d actually be paid less than I was initially told. Upfront they told me the salary is non-negotiable. Also, the benefits package was not as great as I hoped. If I go forward, I may decline the invitation for a second interview.
But here’s a twist: I got invited for an opportunity to interview by my current employer this past Thursday. This position is for an assistant hospital administrator where I would oversee the pediatric department. I got a call on my personal phone and I picked it up because I recognized it as the general employer number. I thought it was my supervisor trying to reach me so naturally, I picked it up. I said, “Hello, (supervisor’s name).” It was not my supervisor who picked up. it was instead an assistant of a C-Suite administrator who told me about this opportunity. I was shell-shocked after the call and sent her my resume as instructed.
In a turn of events, I never thought I would have to choose between Employer #1 and Employer C (my current employer). But this is assuming I receive offers from both of them. Employer #1 is a lateral position that offers flexible hours, I would get to work from home once per week, and I would continue to have a pension. The distance to Employer #1 is already half of my current commute. Employer C on the otherhand is a promotion. If Employer C gives me a break and offered me the position, I would take it. I have applied for hospital administrator positions in Employer #1 and I never got far with it because I do not have the experience.
I mentioned in previous posts I wanted to look for work closer to home because my husband and I already decided she would go to school in near our home. My husband has flexible hours and can work remotely so he’s fine where he is at. I’ve already given myself a deadline to find work closer to home before she starts going to kindergarten. She’s one now and goes to daycare at my work. If I were to take that promotion, I have a few more years left and I would like to use that time to get hospital administrator experience — if I get the offer. My supervisor is in full support of it and will campaign for me to get selected.
What a week!
It was overall a busy week at work and with life. During my busy weeks I like to spend my downtime window shopping on the internet. I don’t buy anything really, more like obsessively research items I am thinking of buying. It will take me a long time before I decide to buy something. It’s not dangerous for my wallet it’s more like dangerous for my productivity. What do you like to do in your downtime?
What else happened this week? I finished another level of Spanish on Duolingo. When I get really busy, one of the first things I drop is practicing Duolingo because I set my daily goal so high at 50 points per day. Rather than doing the maximum daily goal, I set it to 10 points per day so I could at least keep the momentum.