March Overview

For this weekend’s Coffee Share, let’s review my 21 in 2021 list. Oh yeah, get some alfajores!

3. I am still doing my #Read21in21. To be honest, I did not find a lot of good books in March. I was placed on the waitlist for a lot of the books I wanted to read and read whatever looked interesting. There were a lot I did not finish and panned midway. The ones that stood out for me was called Twilight: Los Angeles, 1992 a play by Anna Deavere Smith — you can watch the performance on PBS. Another standout was The Kindest Lie: A Novel by Nancy Johnson.

8. Got a credenza for the living room! I got it from IKEA. More shelf space for our board games and books. We have dedicate a little bit of shelf space for Lana’s toys. But as you know, we are trying REALLY hard to not have too many toys for her. Anyways we love this Besta system from IKEA, we are thinking for installing more for our TV area.

14. Made baby food. I freeze the a lot of it into ice cubes trays. Right now we’re just introducing. So far I’ve pureed carrots, avocados, bananas, brown rice, green beans, and a broccoli potato blend. To be honest there were times it was tempting to cave into store bought baby food. Instead of researching for recipes, I should just start with my fridge. After all, the ingredients are incredibly minimal. It’s just carrots, water, and blend or green beans and water and blend.

There are a few projects I am working on in April. Though it may not be on my list, I do want to work on the patio area since the weather is getting better and I would like to spend my days at home sitting on my patio reading books, writing, and getting inspired. As much as I enjoy house projects, I do find them overwhelming leaving a lot of incomplete projects. I spend a lot of time researching and budgeting but it does not go anywhere beyond the planning stage. What does not help at all is if my husband or I don’t have a vision, it does not move forward at all. Take for example, I want to do a box garden: I spend a lot of time researching the type of wood to get to build it, to find out what to do and not to do, getting the right tools, etc. It’s been a project pending since we’ve moved into our house. A little part of me think it’s easier to just buy the box. I just feel over researching and project planning my weekends and whatever free time I have incredibly debilitating. I told my husband with these projects we have to sacrifice a few weekends in a row to actually complete the projects we want to complete. That means saying “no” invitations to social gatherings and weddings, etc. and I highly doubt that is something we want to do. The pandemic would have been an ideal time to take care of these projects, but I was pregnant for all of it and caring for a newborn.

The only plus side out of our indecision fatigue is that we just keep building up our savings. Also, I am so glad we did not buy a bigger house with a bigger lot. I don’t think I’d be able to care for it.

21 in (20)21

I guess my word for 2021 is “Declutter.” I feel we are finally settled in our house after the remodel. We’ve accumulated stuff over the years from past apartments and they never quite found “homes” around the house.

At one point, one room was just storage and the other room was my office where I did school and creative projects. Now with my brother-in-law moved in, one room is now both the storage and the office space. And now with the baby, we need to make that storage room/office space into a bedroom. It’s not going to be immediate, but she will move in. I strongly don’t believe in buying a home with more rooms. As someone who has lived in a large home in the suburbs, it just means a larger vessel to store more random crap.

I think “Declutter” is an appropriate word to define my new year. A lot of my goals are oriented towards getting rid of stuff (i.e. physical stuff, time sucking hobbies, things dragging down my happiness) to make room for fewer, better things.

Anyways, here are my my 21 things for 2021.

Self-Love

1. Give myself a gift for Mother’s Day. I’ve worked many thankless jobs and I think motherhood is the most thankless at all. It’s also the job where I encounter the most people one upping each other making it even more thankless. It’s emotionally and mentally exhausting. On top of that, discussing baby rearing with other people has quickly become a dick measuring contest if you breastfeed vs. formula feed, how much stuff you buy for the baby, enrolling in courses, etc. I guess giving myself a gift is my way to telling myself that my parenting is more than enough. In terms of gifts, I’m pretty simple. Maybe a large package of spin classes will do.

2. Start off my day reading the The Daily Stoic from January 1st to December 31st. There were a few days where I read the The Daily Stoic in the final few weeks of pregnancy. I read each passage at the end of the day when I should really read it at the beginning of the day — maybe before work or during lunch time?

3. Do the #Read21in21 where I read for 21 minutes per day. I am not sure how to define this. I definitely do want to set sometime to read for myself everyday. I also want to read everyday for Lana. Do I read 21 minutes for myself and 21 minute for Lana? Then again, a lot of books for babies are picture books with very few words. It takes minutes to complete but I spend my time describing and going over the pictures with her even though she does not understand me yet.

Home

4. Plant three herbs in front of the house… I want to be intentional of which herbs to plant…namely herbs we use all the time.

5. Work on Lana’s room which means cleaning up the office/storage room. This is a large undertaking because we have a lot books and files. We need to be creative in moving stuff around or just getting rid of it.

6. Move the shoe rack from the entry way in the coat closet. We have a lot of shoes in the entryway and we do not wear all of them on a regular basis. I only wear two shoes daily (boots and sneakers). To avoid a trip hazard, it’s best to move the shoes we normally don’t wear in the coat closet.

7 Have a large indoor plant for the entry way. As you can see I want to clean up the entryway.

8 Get a credenza for the living room.

9. Plant a tree for the front yard.

10. Convert our little eight year old IKEA table into a kitchen island.

11. Reorganize the kitchen cabinets.

Finance

12. Save six months worth of living expenses

13. Create monthly meal plans. I think this would be a lot of fun to do. I’ve always been creative in making meals based on whatever is in my fridge. Because we have a baby, I feel we do need to meal plan throughout the week and make sure we have enough leftovers for lunch the following day. I intend to release my monthly meal plans at the beginning of each month on the blog.

14. Make our own baby food.

Health

15. Improve my posture muscles at barre. Mostly this is focusing on keeping my shoulders down.

16. Get the COVID-19 vaccine. One of the first things I’ll do when I return to work.

Career

17. Apply for the Management Fellow Program at work.

Creativity/Other activities

18. Create an artistic display of our postcards. This is from last year’s list. I do have something in mind. I thought I would have maternity leave to put something together but I got occupied in other things. My friends and I decided to organize a virtual craft day. This would be perfect for that project.

19. Finish a Duolingo course.

20. Organize my apps on my phone. I just install apps, but I should organize them into folders. When my husband tries to look for stuff on my phone, I get embarrassed because I know he has a hard time looking for anything.

21. Go on a major trip as a family. This is a reach assuming COVID dies down by then.

What are your goals for 2021? Share below!

“Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.”

Melody Beattie