The Long Thanksgiving weekend

How was your Thanksgiving? Ours was pretty simple. We just had it at my parents’ house. They live about 30 minutes away. I did not prepare anything fancy, I just got frozen appetizers from Trader Joe’s and I baked them when I got to my parents’ house. There were these fried goat cheese balls I wanted to make but I’ll try it another time. I don’t want my first attempt in fried cheese goat balls to be on Thanksgiving Day.

I can see why having a Thanksgiving feast with family the weekend before the real Thanksgiving can be a thing especially if you’re married or in a commited relationship with the need to fulfill ALL family duties. When you have Thanksgiving the weekend before, you won’t get all the Thanksgiving traffic and you get to see everyone in November. It’s a win-win situation. Or so we like to think.

Every October we think about how we should split our time for the holiday season. Ever since my husband and I dated we would do Thanksgiving at my parent’s house and Christmas at my in-law’s house and we would switch it the following year. My parents understand the arrangement but my in-laws not so much. They would ask us “why are you not spending Thanksgiving with us?” and our response is “because we’ll be with you all on Christmas.” Plus we get more days off around Christmas so they get more time with us. Then there were some years where we would be guilted into spending both holidays with the in-laws. I am honestly still salty about the year we went to San Diego for Thanksgiving and I was three weeks post-partum. I did not want to travel far and this was pre-vaccine COVID era which was very scary.

Anyways for this year, since we already saw my family for Thanksgiving, my in-laws get Christmas. The week of New Year’s we’re going to Seattle to see my husband’s extended family. We’ve been planning to go for the last three years but our schedules never worked out. Plus they’ll finally meet Lana in person.

How do you manage your time with family?

My LinkedIn feed has been pretty sad. Earlier this month, I recalled seeing posts from contacts who have shared they’ve been let go from tech companies such as Twitter and Meta (Facebook) and are seeking a job. I know there’s never a good time to get let go from a job but getting let go right before the holiday season is just plain cruel. The way the workers got let go in Twitter was so childish. I pray that they find jobs soon.

Today I got the Christmas decorations to decorate the front porch. Decorations will be simple: a garland around the door and a fresh wreath. I considered putting two tiny Christmas trees flanking the door but will they be able to stay fresh until New Year’s? I’m not sure. Also, how much cleaning would I be willing to do? It’s the first year in many years since I’ve really decorated. In fact, ever since we moved into our house in 2015, we’ve never decorated for Christmas. There was that one year when SIL gave us her artificial tree. We disassembled as soon as we completed because it turned out the built-in string lights were no longer working. I tried removing the string lights with a wire cutter but it was so time consuming it was easier to just not have a Christmas tree.

Do you decorate for Christmas or any other holiday?

I’ve been tracking things I’ve been gifting away in an effort to get rid of things I don’t need and have a more decluttered house. Last week I gift these really nice wine glasses. They were a gift and I re-gifted it to a friend. This week it’s another book to go to the Little Free Library.

Weekend Coffee Share

8 thoughts on “The Long Thanksgiving weekend”

  1. I’ll never forget the year my ex and I went from my sister’s (pre-dinner) to his family (after dinner) on Thanksgiving. The food was all put away and no one offered us anything, so we got a pizza on the way home. I’m so glad I no longer have to deal with any of that.

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    1. Oh no I’m sorry to hear that they put away the food. Did they think you were not going? It would be difficult to do two dinners. Our families live 2 hours apart!


  2. Hi….the family thing is tough no matter what you do I think. If you’re interested, check out my post on Wednesday. It’s called Dysfunctional Family Bingo. It was developed by author Martha Beck. It’s hilarious and might really help you to have fun next time. I wish I would have had it when I was doing the family thing…you do it with a couple friends. You each create your own lists and then update each other via text. So funny!
    Have a great week 💜


    1. OH that is too funny! A couple of weeks ago my husband was dreading visiting his family after not seeing each other for so long. But also they’ve been mad at him over a certain family drama. To ease the pending visit we made rules for a theoretical drinking game. Alcohol is optional and water is completely acceptable so you may come out of the game very hydrated lol.

      Thank you for stopping by!

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  3. Traveling postpartum–ugh. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Sometimes I wish I had family to visit for the holidays, but then I hear stories like yours, and I’m glad I don’t.

    Frozen appetizers from Trader Joe’s are awesome and a lot less work than making your own from scratch.

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