Yesterday was my birthday and I am now 35 years old.

I was about to share 35 lessons I’ve learned over the years in honor of my 35th birthday but it’s not quite finished yet. Instead of having one big post of 35 lessons –which would have been a very long post — I’ll break it up throughout the most. Keep in mind, these are just how I feel at the moment. Some are a little cynical and some of them I hope I outgrow someday. I may be 35, but I’m going through some growing pains so some lessons may not be so feel-goodyโ€ฆanyways here are my 35 life lessons and observations:

  1. Do not let perfect be the enemy of the good. Example: Watch me at Zumba class. I never nail the choreography and I should not be embarrassed about it. My focus should be centered on exercise and having a good time.
  2. I believe friendship is more about the quality, not so much the quantity of time spent. I avoid watching shows like “Friends”, “How I Met Your Mother”, and “Sex and the City” like it is COVID. I watched it when it aired and it was fine for its time. The thing I do not like about those shows is the fact that these groups of friends seem to spend EVERY part of each other’s lives even with kids and highly demanding jobs (i.e. teacher, lawyer, chef). I spend more time texting and engaging on my friend’s social media. When we Facetime, it’s very late like 9:30pm.
  3. My dogs are more than fluffy babies. I believe pets are not presents. They are a lifetime commitment that requires love, exercise, food, and care. They are part of my family. Unless someone is allergic to dogs, I will bring my dogs to that house party.
  4. You do not have to sleep because the baby sleeping. That is the most impractical advice ever. When Lana was sleeping, it was the best time for me to exercise, clean, and plan. If I sleep when Lana sleeps, nothing would get done.
  5. Setting office hours. In my previous job, I engaged with a lot of students and volunteers at the hospital. Sometimes it felt like it was all day and it took me away from other duties such as quality improvement, programming, planning, committees, and other appointments. My supervisor at my current job emphasized the importance of setting office hours so people don’t drop in whenever they please and it has made my workload much more manageable.
  6. Instant coffee isn’t so terrible after all.
  7. If I am not engaged with a book within the first 100 pages, pan it. Life is too short to stick with a terrible book.

That’s it for now.

If you live in the Southwestern U.S. it’s been HOT!! It’s been 100+ degrees for the last couple of days in my part of LA and it will continue into Tuesday. Yesterday night I was sitting in the backyard video-chatting with my friends planning for our upcoming trip and suddenly, I saw drops of rain on my laptop. I ran inside yelling about how it was raining. It was a nice brief break from all the heat.

My phone died on Tuesday. Initially, I thought it needed a new battery so I went to a cellphone repair shop to get it replaced. Unfortunately, that was not it. The person at the repair shop said the motherboard is dead and suggested it was best to get a new phone. My replacement phone should arrive in a few days so I’ve been without my phone for the last few days. I have a work phone but I prefer to keep it strictly for work. I shared with my family, friends, and Lana’s daycare to reach me on my work phone for emergencies only. If I need to review e-mail or use social media, I just use my laptop.

This weekend we will be going to San Diego for pretty much a staycation. We’ll be going to Balboa Park and the Zoo. We’ll be meeting up with old friends and family while we are in the area.

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19 thoughts on “35”

  1. Hi Julie,
    Great list of lessons learned and happy 35th. I’m almost twice your age and can tell you are wiser than many your age so bravo for you lady.
    I hope you love Balboa Park and the zoo. We did both near the end of last summer and it was hot – but still great. We even took the bus tour twice so we could sit on different sides to see better.

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    1. Aww thank you so much. The zoo was a lot of fun but it was so hot that day. My kid had a really good time seeing monkeys and elephants in real life and it was fun to watch her.


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